[2007.5.6][转贴][APTX青山病院]性的六种感觉 6：Attraction

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The Six Senses of Sex, Part 6: Attraction

Posted by Dr. Laura Berman
on Mon, Apr 16, 2007, 10:43 am PDT

The end of my six-part series is here. I will tease you no longer and reveal that the sixth sense of sex is ... attraction. Attraction provides the "x" factor for the sex, love, and intimacy we all crave.

But attraction is a mystery to many, if not most, of us. What explains our preferences? Why are we often drawn to a similar type of person over and over again? Why do some people feel so comfortable to us?

Dr. John Money, a world-famous sexologist from John Hopkins, invented a concept known as love maps.

A love map is a product of early childhood experiences that lay the groundwork for our attractions after puberty. The information, like having a favorite babysitter when you were younger, registers in the brain via the five senses. You remember her hair color. Or you develop an affinity for her body type. Later, you're "activated" by these very same qualities. You walk into a crowded room and someone catches your eye. Or you feel the pangs of attraction when someone speaks like her.

Love maps explain why we feel that certain pull toward someone without knowing why. Serious loves likely fit almost perfectly into the love map stamp that's on our brain. It's like two halves of a puzzle come together. We call this attraction ... but it's really a chemical symphony that results from what our senses are noticing.

The strongest electricity occurs when all five of the senses are activated, ushering in the sixth sense of sex: attraction.

And while it may alert us to who's the best fit, romantically speaking, it doesn't mean finding your soul mate will make love easy. Relationships take work! The chemicals at play in the early days of lust and attraction fade over time -- for every couple, no matter how much their love maps coincide. So recapture those delicious feelings of early love by getting back to the senses.


The Six Senses of Sex, Part 6: Attraction
性六感之第六部分：吸引力

Posted by Dr. Laura Berman
劳拉·伯曼撰写

The end of my six-part series is here. I will tease you no longer and reveal that the sixth sense of sex is ... attraction. Attraction provides the "x" factor for the sex, love, and intimacy we all crave.
这是我的六部曲的最后一部分。不卖关子了，性的第六感是——吸引力。对于我们渴望的性，爱和亲密来说，吸引力是一个未知数，举足轻重。

But attraction is a mystery to many, if not most, of us. What explains our preferences? Why are we often drawn to a similar type of person over and over again? Why do some people feel so comfortable to us?
然而，吸引力对于我们大多数人，至少是很多人，来说，都是一个谜。怎样才能解释我们选择时的偏好？为什么我们常常一遍遍地被同一种类型的人吸引？为什么和有些人相处会特别舒服？

Dr. John Money, a world-famous sexologist from John Hopkins, invented a concept known as love maps.
来自约翰·霍普金斯大学的世界知名的性科学家约翰·马尼博士提出了“爱情地图”的概念。

A love map is a product of early childhood experiences that lay the groundwork for our attractions after puberty. The information, like having a favorite babysitter when you were younger, registers in the brain via the five senses. You remember her hair color. Or you develop an affinity for her body type. Later, you're "activated" by these very same qualities. You walk into a crowded room and someone catches your eye. Or you feel the pangs of attraction when someone speaks like her.
“爱情地图”是人类童年经历的产物，却决定了青春期后被吸引的方式。譬如说，对于你童年时期最喜爱的保姆，这个保姆的信息会以前述的五种感觉的形式植入大脑。你会记住她的头发颜色，或者偏好她的体型。长大以后，当你遇到相同特质的女人，这些感觉就会被激活。当你走进一个拥挤的房间时，你会被具有这种特质的人吸引；当有人说话和你记忆中的特质相吻合时，你会感到强烈的吸引力。

Love maps explain why we feel that certain pull toward someone without knowing why. Serious loves likely fit almost perfectly into the love map stamp that's on our brain. It's like two halves of a puzzle come together. We call this attraction ... but it's really a chemical symphony that results from what our senses are noticing.
“爱情地图”解释了我们不可理解地被某些人强烈吸引的原因。强烈的爱往往十分符合我们大脑中爱情地图的印记。这就像拼图的两半被放在了一起。我们把这称为吸引力，而这实际上来源于我们感觉的期望值，是一种化学上的和谐。

The strongest electricity occurs when all five of the senses are activated, ushering in the sixth sense of sex: attraction.
在性的第六感——吸引力的指引下，在所有五种感觉都被激活时，最强的电流产生了。

And while it may alert us to who's the best fit, romantically speaking, it doesn't mean finding your soul mate will make love easy. Relationships take work! The chemicals at play in the early days of lust and attraction fade over time -- for every couple, no matter how much their love maps coincide. So recapture those delicious feelings of early love by getting back to the senses.
浪漫地说，这个理论可能会帮助我们找到适合的对象，不过，这并不意味着一旦找到灵魂伴侣，爱就会变得容易。一段良好的关系需要长久的努力！对每对伴侣来说，不管他们的爱情地图多么符合，男女相互渴望和吸引的早期产生的奇妙的化学物质都会随着时间而消褪。所以，通过重新感受性的感觉，重新找回那些爱情初期的美妙感觉吧！

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性六感之第六部分：吸引力

这是我的六部曲的最后一部分。不卖关子了，性的第六感是——吸引力。对于我们渴望的性，爱和亲密来说，吸引力是一个未知数，举足轻重。然而，吸引力对于我们大多数人，至少是很多人，来说，都是一个谜。怎样才能解释我们选择时的偏好？为什么我们常常一遍遍地被同一种类型的人吸引？为什么和有些人相处会特别舒服？来自约翰·霍普金斯大学的世界知名的性科学家约翰·马尼博士提出了“爱情地图”的概念。“爱情地图”是人类童年经历的产物，却决定了青春期后被吸引的方式。譬如说，对于你童年时期最喜爱的保姆，这个保姆的信息会以前述的五种感觉的形式植入大脑。你会记住她的头发颜色，或者偏好她的体型。长大以后，当你遇到相同特质的女人，这些感觉就会被激活。当你走进一个拥挤的房间时，你会被具有这种特质的人吸引；当有人说话和你记忆中的特质相吻合时，你会感到强烈的吸引力。“爱情地图”解释了我们不可理解地被某些人强烈吸引的原因。强烈的爱往往十分符合我们大脑中爱情地图的印记。这就像拼图的两半被放在了一起。我们把这称为吸引力，而这实际上来源于我们感觉的期望值，是一种化学上的和谐。在性的第六感——吸引力的指引下，在所有五种感觉都被激活时，“来电”的感觉产生了。浪漫地说，这个理论可能会帮助我们找到适合的对象，不过，这并不意味着一旦找到灵魂伴侣，爱就会变得容易。一段良好的关系需要长久的努力！对每对伴侣来说，不管他们的爱情地图多么符合，男女相互渴望和吸引的早期产生的奇妙的化学物质都会随着时间而消褪。所以，通过重新感受性的感觉，重新找回那些爱情初期的美妙感觉吧！

daat1928

……………………
－－真的假的
看来童年对于现在的影响很大？！

TL

自己翻译的还是软件翻译的？。。许多句子都似乎不很通顺。。。

对于“爱情蓝图”里童年影响的确是很重要的环节，父母离异的和没有离异的孩子在爱情观上必然相差很大，另外影视、文学等艺术作品也有广泛的影响力，也就造成了许多恋爱初期的男女对于爱情抱着一种童话般的期待，这种期待也必然造就了众多悲剧的结局。。。

工藤新逸

....为什么是洋文~

lyguonan

看得有些费劲……:030:

wangyuankai

首先英语原文是有出处的，大家不用担心准确性的之意。

翻译也只能在应有的限度内翻译，水平有限，如果有高手可以自己翻译。